Supporting Step-Siblings Through Separation
13/01/2025It is estimated that 1 in 3 families in the UK are blended families, with step-siblings forming close bonds in households brought together by new relationships. However, when these relationships end, the emotional impact on step-siblings is often overlooked.
For children, the bond between step-siblings can feel as strong as, or even stronger than, traditional sibling relationships. They share family routines, holidays, and countless everyday moments. When their parents separate, step-siblings may find themselves suddenly disconnected, not just from one parent figure but also from each other.
This loss can be particularly challenging because, unlike biological siblings, step-siblings often lack legal or societal frameworks to maintain their connection post-separation. Without shared care arrangements or legal ties, the decision to stay in touch often falls to the adults in their lives, who may be preoccupied with their own emotions and logistics.
For children and young people, separation can lead to feelings of grief, confusion, and abandonment. They may struggle to understand why the bond they’ve built with their step-sibling is not being prioritised. For many, it’s a double loss—of a parent figure and a sibling relationship.
Supporting Step-Siblings Through Separation
1. Acknowledge Their Bond
Adults should recognise the importance of the relationship between step-siblings and validate the emotional pain that separation might bring.
2. Facilitate Contact
If appropriate, encourage step-siblings to stay in touch, even if it’s just through online communication or occasional visits.
3. Provide Emotional Support
Step-siblings may need time and space to process the separation. Counselling or family therapy can help them navigate their emotions.
4. Normalise Their Feelings
It’s important to let children know that feeling sad or confused about losing touch with a step-sibling is normal and valid.
Step-siblings often form deep connections, and ensuring these bonds are honoured, even after separation, can make a significant difference to their emotional wellbeing. By acknowledging the unique challenges step-siblings face, we can help them feel seen, supported, and valued during times of change.